The idea of “till death do us part” can be overwhelming for couples.
Or, you may just want a “check-up” before the wedding.
Either way, we can help with premarital counseling in New Jersey.
Even when you love your partner very much, it can be intimidating to make a lifetime commitment to someone. As the big day looms closer, you may start to wonder if you’re making the right choice. Do you know this person well enough to marry them? Have you fully discussed all the problems that could come up in a lifetime together? Perhaps you even tabled some red flags you saw long ago, and you want to deal with them before marriage makes them even trickier to navigate.
That being said, you may be part of the group who feels that their relationship is stable and secure, you just want to do somewhat of a “check-up” before your wedding day. You want to learn your strengths and challenges as a couple so you’re as prepared as possible for any roadblocks headed your way.
Common Reasons Couples Seek Premarital Counseling
While every couple has unique circumstances and questions, here are some common reasons people attend premarital counseling. You’re considering a major commitment such as engagement or marriage and you:
- Struggle with conflict resolution
- Have difficulty communicating effectively
- Want to learn your strengths and challenges as a couple
- Have contention with your future in-laws
- Disagree about finances
- Disagree about how to raise children
- Have personal challenges that negatively affect the relationship
This is such an exciting time in your life together as a couple.
Your life’s journey together can be full of love and promise with premarital counseling to get you started!
Premarital counseling can give you all the skills to prepare for your commitment
It may seem daunting to try and fit premarital counseling into your life at the same time you’re planning a wedding. You probably have dozens of tabs open in your mind at any given moment! That being said, did you know that couples who engage in some form of premarital counseling have a 30% higher chance of success in their commitment?
That’s because premarital counseling isn’t just about solving problems— that’s a part of it, but really, that’s what couples counseling is for! This distinct type of therapy is also about helping you prepare and build a solid foundation before problems arise. So, whether you’re on the brink of a breakup or just looking for that quick check-in, you’ll be surprised by how much deeper your bond becomes.
The Mountainside Counseling Center Approach to Premarital Counseling
A strong couple isn’t one that has no problems, but one that arms themselves to tackle many different types of problems as they may arise. That’s why I use a comprehensive approach to premarital counseling that covers:
Taking control of your internal world.
What did you learn from your families about relationships and marriage? Are those teachings still relevant today? And how do you relate to others— are you comfortable with more closeness or distance in a relationship? How do you most naturally give and receive love?
Bringing your best selves to the relationship.
How are your internal worlds colliding in your relationship? You’ll learn to set better boundaries, avoid common communication pitfalls, and feel comfortable protecting the relationship rather than yourself.
Effectively managing conflict.
If all else fails, you need to know how to fight clean.
Keeping the spark alive for many years to come.
Many couples worry that after a few years, or after they have kids, that they won’t feel passionate about each other anymore. You’ll learn how to maximize that spark for as long as you care to nurture it.