Generally, people think the goal of conflict is winning. Sometimes in life it is. But in a marriage, that's another losing strategy. If you're winning an conflict, then your partner [...]
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One of the things that connected with me personally when I first heard John and Julie Gottman speak was the concept of the emotional bank account. Several of the Gottman [...]
Differences in politics has come up several times in my work with couples. This isn't new. 38% of married households contain a politically mismatched pair, according to recent survey data. [...]
The antidote to defensiveness is to accept responsibility for your role in the issue. Think about the word responsibility. Response. Ability. You have the ability to respond with patience [...]
I love the Starbucks app. Now I have a relationship with Starbucks where they know what I want and need, without me having to ask for it. I just show [...]
What does it mean when I say I work as a contemplative psychotherapist? If you’re a current client of mine, or considering becoming a client, this is a fundamental question-what [...]
In my work with couples a lot of people ask questions like “How can you do that kind of work?-sitting there while couples yell at each other, I couldn’t take [...]
Research shows that almost 2/3 of marital issues are unsolvable. At the Gottman Institute We call these perpetual problems. Psychologist Dan Wile says, "When choosing a long-term partner, you will [...]