While arguing on a daily basis isn’t exactly an indicator of a strong relationship, there’s one issue which is even more dangerous for couples: ongoing silence. Although disagreements are rarely fun, [...]
Housework is often fought about, but rarely taken seriously as a source of conflict in relationships. Yet, household chores deserve just as much attention as any other issue. If one person [...]
Smartphones have made it possible to stay connected to social networks at all times of day, which can be both a blessing and a curse. If your relationship is like [...]
Ongoing clear communication is the foundation of any strong relationship, but just because you’re communicating with your partner doesn’t mean it’s healthy. Most couples come in and say "we need [...]
Sometimes, external pressures can be the greatest threat to healthy relationships. When one or both individuals experience work-related stress it can create rifts that wouldn’t be there otherwise. At the [...]
All relationships have conflict. Managing conflict is not easy. You might find yourself lost, looking everywhere for answers and solutions, but you just come up with empty handed and are [...]
Each year, more than two million marriages come to an end via divorce. The average marriage is in trouble for at least 7 years before the couple seeks help. Couples [...]
Generally, people think the goal of conflict is winning. Sometimes in life it is. But in a marriage, that's another losing strategy. If you're winning an conflict, then your partner [...]
Asking for what you want, rather than telling your partner what they did wrong, or about what you don't want, is a winning strategy. A common mistake couples make is [...]
One of the things that connected with me personally when I first heard John and Julie Gottman speak was the concept of the emotional bank account. Several of the Gottman [...]
Differences in politics has come up several times in my work with couples. This isn't new. 38% of married households contain a politically mismatched pair, according to recent survey data. [...]
This is a question I get a lot during sessions, when clients have had a conflict, right in front of me. My answer is: Let’s do a quick repair. [...]
